The Nuclear Option: False Child Sexual Abuse Allegations in Custody Disputes
There is a very simple trick, used all too frequently in family courts, that will almost always ensure the immediate elimination of a man's constitutional rights. by Jake Morphonios
(libertarian)
Monday, February 18, 2008
In acrimonious divorce and child custody disputes emotions are tense and tempers flare. Buoyed by litigious attorneys, each side engages in strategic maneuvers to gain the greatest legal advantage. Sometimes a parent, fearing a loss of control or custody over a child, crosses the ethically acceptable bounds of legal warfare. An unfortunate but all too frequently used tactic by mothers is to accuse the father of sexually molesting their child. The mere accusation is sufficient to strip the father of all his custody rights and launch a criminal investigation. Even when no evidence is found to substantiate the allegation, family law courts typically "err on the side of caution" and award full custody to the mother. While national statistics reveal that the majority of all child sex abuse reports are legitimate, when such claims are made by a mother in the context of custody litigation, an estimated 77% of allegations are determined to be unfounded (Tong, 2002).A false child sex abuse allegation made during child custody litigation is a destructive legal stratagem.
Throughout the world, child sexual abuse is considered the ultimate crime. Not even murder generates the kind of raw emotional reaction that results from the sexual abuse of a child. Society acknowledges the innocence of children and responds to child abusers with extreme prejudice. The power of the accusation alone is often enough for public opinion to impeach the character of the alleged child abuser and guarantee legal victory for the mother. According to Jeffery M. Leving (1997), a leading father’ rights attorney, "the use of false sexual abuse allegations to win custody suits has become almost a standard tactic among disturbed mothers and unethical divorce lawyers" (pg 148).The accused may spend years rebuilding his reputation from the monumental damage caused by the accusation.
To investigate the effect of a false child abuse accusation, a child custody survey was conducted; the group was evenly divided between males and females. A scenario was presented in which a divorcing couple was contesting custody of the children. It was stated that both parents were fit and proper. The question posed regarded what custody arrangement would be in the best interests of the child. An overwhelming 94% of respondents indicated that joint legal and physical custody, shared between parents, would be in the child’s best interest, with 78% of respondents indicating that a 50/50 time sharing agreement was appropriate. Another scenario was presented. In the second scenario the father has been accused by the mother of sexually molesting their child. The Department of Social Services and the police conducted an investigation and concluded that there is insufficient evidence to determine whether or not the father committed sexual abuse. The question of custody is again asked. As a result of the unsubstantiated accusation against the father, 79% of the same respondents stated that sole legal and physical custody should be granted to the mother. Only 15% of respondents felt that the father should be permitted a minimum of 50% visitation with the children. In the final survey question regarding the respondent’s personal opinion of child molesters, 42% stated that they should be "locked away for life" and 48% responded that they should "burn in hell". Why do so many mothers file false sexual abuse allegations during custody cases? They work. False accusers in this type of case rarely face prosecution.
The judicial system, likewise, responds to alleged child abusers swiftly and aggressively. Unfortunately for many falsely accused fathers, truth and justice are often niceties which are frequently ignored. Leving (1997) writes, "Based on well-meaning ‘better safe than sorry’ policy, abuse investigators often accept an abuse charge as fact and consider the accused abuser guilty until proven otherwise" (pg 150).This is a significant problem. The US Constitution guarantees that accused persons are to be treated as innocent until proven guilty. In this type of case, however, constitutional safeguards are abandoned. The burden of proof falls upon the accused to prove a negative, or, to conclusively show that an alleged event never occurred. This reversal of constitutional jurisprudence sets a dangerous precedent and ensures the conviction of many innocent men. The destructive power of a false child abuse allegation has been termed "the nuclear option" by law professionals (Tong, 1997).Once this nuclear bomb is dropped, all hope of civil reconciliation is lost. The custody battle escalates into a bitter war.
The prevalence of false accusations is a matter of debate. Disagreement over the proper ratio of false abuse statistics may range anywhere from 20% to 80%.It can be extremely difficult to correctly track the ration of true to false accusations because of the problem in identifying the intent of the accuser. In some instances a mother genuinely believes abuse has occurred. In other instances the mother may not be sure and simply doesn’t know what to do other than to file an allegation of abuse. However, when one considers all factors, including the number of retracted allegations, recantations and the preponderance of cases proven to be dishonest, a fair estimate settled upon by many studies is an average of 77% (Brennan & Brennan, 1994).
False reports of sexual abuse against children are often first reported to Child Protective Services (CPS) or some other governmental social service agency. A safety assessment is conducted by a CPS or social worker (Ney, 1995). During this brief assessment standard questions are asked of the mother regarding the alleged event. At the end of the assessment, even if no proof of wrongdoing is presented, procedure requires the social worker to recommend that full custody be given to the mother as a safety precaution until a full investigation is concluded. This assessment is included in an official complaint and presented to a district court judge. The judge will typically grant an Emergency Ex-Parte Order giving the mother temporary sole custody of the children and restrain the father from having any contact with his children, even when no additional evidence beyond the mother’s word exists. A hearing date is set and the legal battle begins.
The mother gains immediate advantages over the father. First, by giving the mother full custody of the children the court is setting a precedent that will be hard for the father to overcome. Most family court judges believe in maintaining the status quo, and subsequently order the children to continue residing with the mother rather than changing the children’s residence to that of the father (Hardwick, 2004).A second advantage for the mother is that the children are unable to communicate with their father and a process of alienation begins. The more time that passes without contact, the greater the alienation. During this period of alienation, a child may be coached by the mother to support the allegation against the father.
After the Emergency Ex-Parte Order has been granted, an investigation of the allegation begins. As part of the investigation, the child is examined by a medical doctor for physical signs of sexual abuse. It is rare that evidence is discovered. The child is also seen by social workers who use items such as anatomically correct dolls to try to encourage the child to talk about what happened. Even when the child states that nothing happened, the investigation continues. After a series of interrogations, which often serve to reinforce the false story in the child’s mind, the child may eventually say something or play with the dolls in such a way as to cause the social worker to suspect abuse (Tong, 1992).As part of this ongoing investigation by both CPS and local law enforcement, the reputation of the father is constructively destroyed by the investigation. Family relationships become strained. Employers tire of granting time off work to accommodate the father’s frequent court hearings. Social relationships are damaged, often never to be repaired.
The very process of being investigated causes many men to give up and grant the mother everything she wants from him. Sadly, many fathers are so traumatized by the horror of the process that they commit suicide (Seidenberg, 1997).False abuse expert, Dean Tong (2002), says of the emotional state of the accused:
Sleep is forever elusive, night-terror becomes common-place and depression is a constant companion. Rarely is there any support to be found within the community and rarely is there any sympathy for the falsely-accused. Throughout it all, you must bear the title "abuser," until you prove otherwise, if you can. Disorientation, denial, shock, confusion, anxiety, and disbelief are constant. Lack of concentration is a chronic problem, exceeded only by the frustration of being denied the right to see your children. (pg 25)
Immediately, the father finds himself in a maze of confusing litigation. He spends thousands of dollars to retain an attorney. Police often request the father to take lie detector tests. Even though he submits to and often passes several polygraph tests, it does him little good as the tests are not admissible in court. A single attorney is rarely sufficient to provide an appropriate defense in this type of case. Thousands of dollars must be spent to retain psychologists and other expert witnesses in the fields of sexual abuse. In an attempt to prove their innocence, many fathers submit to invasive psycho-sexual testing, such as the penile polygraph. In this particular test sensors are placed around the penis and variety of video images are displayed to the father, such as children playing in water or little girls in bathing suits. The subtlest of sexual responses while looking at images of children will condemn the father. The cost of testing, attorneys, expert witnesses and other legal fees in this type of case often exceeds $50,000.The father sometimes has to mortgage his home and sell his assets to afford a sufficient defense. Naturally, little money is leftover at the end to use in a custody case.
In most court districts throughout the United States, judges run for office as any other politician. If a judge takes, or fails to take, an action that leads to the abuse of a child by an alleged child abuser, his political career may be over. Political expediency is a strong, yet unspoken, factor in emotionally charged cases such with child sexual abuse (Seidenberg, 1997). When a father has been falsely accused of molesting his child, even when no evidence substantiates the claim, he often loses custody of his children because the court decides to "play it safe". The father may not go to jail, but the temporary order preventing his access to his children is frequently made permanent. By no fault of his own, the father has lost his children, all because a mother chose to fight dirty in court. For the unfortunate father who loses his criminal case, he is locked away. Sentencing for child molesters is typically longer than sentencing for murder (Seidenberg, 1997).Men convicted of child molestation are constant targets of prison abuse by fellow inmates. Fathers, unjustly incarcerated, become bitter and less productive members of society.
The father is not the only victim in a false child sex abuse allegation. Children are also victimized. Not only does the child have to submit to numerous interrogations and invasive tests to determine if abuse occurred, but needless therapy is often prescribed. The child, knowing at first that nothing happened, is subjected to counseling that reinforces the story that abuse has occurred. In time, many children grow to believe and accept that their fathers molested them. The emotional trauma is life-long. This phenomenon has become so common that psychologists have given names to the syndromes that result from false abuse claims, including Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) and Sexual Abuse in Divorce (SAID).The allegation is, in itself, a form of child abuse (Wexler, 1990).The loss of self-esteem, the destruction of the father-child relationship, the mental and emotional damage and premature sexualizing of the child are all very real results of a false abuse accusation. Children who grow up believing they were sexually abused often develop deviant sexual interests and proclivities. No child should be treated so heinously by parents embroiled in a legal chess game.
A false child sexual abuse allegation, while usually ensuring the legal victory for the mother, is destructive to all parties involved. Child molestation is a terrible crime and false accusations play on the natural prejudices of society to the extent that victory can almost be guaranteed for the accuser. The loss of fathers in the lives of their children has many negative consequences for society as a whole. Laws need to be passed that protect the rights of the accused as in any other type of trial. Penalties for false accusers must be created and imposed. Social workers, judges, and others involved in the investigation of this type of allegation must be taught the syndromes that affect children when a false abuse claim is made. Sexual abuse claims made in the middle of custody proceedings must be viewed with some skepticism. Judges must be made aware of the usefulness of certain scientific tests, not currently admissible in court, which may help to vindicate the accused. Finally, an emphasis on more stable families will lead to fewer divorces, and, therefore, fewer false abuse claims. Until these, and other, reforms take place, innocent children will continue to be used as pawns in a senseless game of legal strategy.
References:
Brennan, Carleen, & Brennan, Michael (1994).Custody for Fathers: A practical guide through the combat zone of a brutal custody battle.Costa Mesa, CA: Brennan Publishing.
Hardwick, Charlotte (2004). Win Your Child Custody War.New York, NY: Pale Horse Publishing.
Leving, Jefferey M. (1997).Fathers’ Rights: Hard hitting and fair advice for every father involved in a custody dispute.New York, NY: Basic Books.
Ney, Tara (1995).True and False Allegations of Child Sexual Abuse: Assessment & case management.New York, NY: Brunner/Mazel, Inc.
Seidenberg, Robert (1997).The Father’s Emergency Guide to Divorce-Custody Battle: A Tour through the Predatory World of Judges, Lawyers, Psychologists & Social Workers, in the Subculture of Divorce. Takoma Park, MD: JES Books.
Tong, Dean (1992).Don’t Blame Me, Daddy: False accusations of child sexual abuse. Norfolk, VA: Hampton Roads Publishing Co.
Tong, Dean (2002).Elusive Innocence: Survival guide for the falsely accused. Lafayette, LA: Huntington House Publishers.
Wexler, Richard (1990).Wounded Innocents: The real victims of the war against child abuse. Amherst, NY: Prometheus Books.
Jake Morphonios is a civil rights advocate and North Carolina State Coordinator for Fathers 4 Justice - US. The political opinions of Mr. Morphonios do not represent those of Fathers 4 Justice. Neither Mr. Morphonios nor F4J-US provide legal advice or assistance with individual cases.
Fathers seeking support or information, or other parties interested in becoming involved in the father's rights movement may contact Mr. Morphonios at: jake.morphonios@nc.f4j.us
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Posted By: Walt Thiessen
Date: 2008-02-18 13:01:46
Excellent article, Jake. This article is the kind I hoped for when I originally started this website.
I have three questions.
First, what is the frequency of suicide in false-accusation cases?
Second, what is the frequency of imprisonment of the father in false accusation cases?
Third, among those cases where a preponderance of evidence suggests that the charge is false, what percentage of mothers are charged with filing a false report?
As more judges are going through divorce themselves, the myth of "mother knows best" is slowly falling apart. There is no penalty for a false accusation. I'm sure it happens over 80%.
Those "temporary" rulings in the first hours in a divorce or a legal separation are almost impossible to amend. I've sent enough of my retirement savings to my lawyers. Luckily my case never got as bad as Tong's.
Six more years of this crap. If it weren't for my new and improved wife, I would have given up and given in. I don't approve of men who leave their families behind, but I can relate. Sometimes you just want the bitchfest to stop.
Dean Tong and Glenn Sacks are my heroes.
I'd be interested in any new information and statistics that you may come across.
Don't kid yourself, a false claim of Domestic violence is just as effective in a divorce, it will yield an immediate PPO, it will get you stuck with thousands of dollars in legal costs while she gets a free attorney compliments of the State, who now becomes the plaintiff. Additionally, since the State doesn't like to lose, most states have watered down the required proof to only "preponderance of the evidence", a standard so lacking in requirements that all the state needs to do is prove it's jus as likely it did happen as it didn't - far from the "proof beyond all reasonable doubt", the criminal standard.
Thankfully, I am a happily married man with three beautiful children, but I have a lot of sympathy for this ever since first reading about it in Reason magazine years ago. My wife and I have also discussed these issues over the years, as we often discuss political and social issues together. Much to my surprise, my wife refuses to accept the idea that the system is rigged against fathers, though she admits a certain prejudice against men accused of abuse, she's pretty open-minded about everything.
If my wife, who is fairly reasonable and open-minded, doesn't believe the system is rigged against fathers, even after seeing such evidence, then fathers up against the system have a long row to go to gain sympathy from the general populace.
A local religious sect here in Abilene Texas is the target of a 'witchhunt' using CPS as the tool. Not only is the constitiution done away with but every vestige of due process is thrown out the window. There is little defense except 'keep your mouth shut'. Admit/say nothing to any investigator. They seek self incrimination to corroborate annonymous charges which won't hold up on their own. The ultimate defense is criminal and civil suit against the individual perpetrators and not their agencies.
Ultimately, all bear responsibiltiy for their actions no matter what color of law they operate under. Accountability is a very powerful weapon.
Clearly there is a pressing need for false claims of domestic violence or child sexual abuse to be vigorously prosecuted or punished.
A person making such a claim should be faced with a significant downside.
Now the husband is on a hiding to nothing. The wife has nothing to lose.
My personal experience: During a business breakup my female partner said to mutual friends, "I was always afraid in the back of my mind that one day John might sexually molest my daughter." Ever tried to defend yourself against that type of allegation? A year after everything had settled down she apologised for saying it; explaining that she felt she needed an edge. But the damage done to my reputation is never completely arased.
I have a grandson who just last week was transferred to Lovelock State prison for 20 years to life for a child molestation conviction. A crime for which he is 100% innocent. the details of his case are very similar to this article, he was accused of penitration of the childs vagina with his finger, all testamony by the little girl (4 years old) her mother and grandmother, primarily and the back up of a person from child protection services and an officer from the County. All hearsay and all from their interview with the child. The childs mother was the girlfriend of my grandson who got mad at him over some incidental issue, with the results absolutely devastating to his family. He submitted to a lie dectector test only for his personal satisfaction and that of his family, and was found to be telling the truth, (not admissable in court). He is being represented by an appeals Attorney for presentation to the Nevada Supreme Court, and we pray he is found innocent. Your articles on this subject point out the emotional misuse of such cases and the law should require Professional substantiation of such charges, physical evidence, or eyewitness to bring such a serious charge to trial. In addition punishment to false charges confirmed should be just as strong as their accusation.
I would just like to say bull crap!. This is ludicrous. When a child discloses to a parent that the other parent is molesting them, the parent told reacts. The system fails to recognize the problem as family. Advice is given to go into a protection mode. A parent doesn\'t possibly know what this creates but trusts that the outcome will benefit the child. When in reality it hurts the child severely. Accusations of child molestation cause divorce. Divorce does not cause accusations of child molestation. They happen simultaneously. The problem is the court system does not know how to deal with it effectively and the children ultimately are the ones who suffer. I would really like to see the statistics on parents who are charged, found guilty of molesting thier own child, without admittance. I doubt any exist. This is an epidemic and a solution needs to be made not blame. Parents never liked to discuss sex with children at any age. I do believe parents are more open to the subject but it is still uncomfortable to most and maybe all. Just because a party isn\'t happy with a marriage isn\'t going to alter that judgement. Think about it. A parent sitting down with a child trying to convince them that their other parent did a sexual act to their genitalia. Wrong! No way! No how! It ain\'t possible. Come on lets get real. Children at a very young age are so innocent that they disclose information to parents who they trust, through play, immagination, whatever. My children are victims of the system. I know first hand how it works. I know cases are individual and unique but I also know that molestation occurs in the home. No matter how much one doesn\'t want to believe it, it is true. When it happens and the other parent reacts the cause of the reaction is manipulated and then ignored, and the child/children are damaged forever. Not so much by the act of being molested but putting the children in the hands of the court system. A child subjected to molestation is healable damage caused by accusations are permanent and irreversable. Think about that for a change.
Forgive me if this seems a little off subject here...
I was lucky. My ex was not listened to when she tried to falsely accuse me of molesting our daughter. I guess her reputation had preceded her to the local authorities ;)
I raised my daughter single handedly from adolescence to adulthood as I was her choice for full time parent. She is married, almost 30, and has given me a beautiful grandchild.
Today, I am key person in a high tech startup with broad IP. A founder has accused me of molesting my daughter while I was raising her. He has threatened to bring hearsay evidence to a shareholders meeting.
So far, I have pretty much ignored him. But my disgust and revulsion at his attempts to steal my patents (and my granddaughter's future) is serving to burden my productivity.
Women who falsely accuse men of child molestation should lose their right to reproduce, and have their reproductive organs surgically removed. I am of the opinion that these women should be imprisoned for the balance of their lives and the child should be removed from her care and placed permanently with the father.
In addition, women who "coach" their children in a false accusation, should have their voice box surgically removed during the sterilization operation, as thery no longer deserve the ability to speak.
Any woman who would use this type of allegation, and draw the child into what is an abhorrent lie, no longer deserves to be on the same planet as me. I have absolutely NO feeling whatsoever for a woman who would do this to a man.
My ex has made numerous accusations against me starting with causing diaper rashes, then domestic violence, then emotional abuse to our daughter, and now its making child pornography and molestation of our daughter. Everytime she is proven to be lying and she keeps uping the ante until now she has taken the "nuclear option". No one takes her serious because of her long history of false allegations and complete lack of evidence except her word. California has recently put laws into affect that will bring serious reprecutions to her. I am still awaiting court but my lawyers expect her to lose all custody because she is making her accusations in front of the child and coaching her to say she is being molested. Our daughter is almost 3 years old. This is by far the most horrific and stressful thing i have ever been through. This article is excellent and truthful. The system is being abused more often as a tool to gain custody easily and cheaply than going through a real legal battle based on fact to find what custody situation is best for a child.
This is a good article for those fathers that have been falsely accused, but what about the fathers that will hide behind this article that are guilty? I am a mother of a child that was sexually abused by her father. And all of you supporters are right, there is no evidence. Just my daughters word that he touched her. Do I believe her? You bet I do. Will I protect her? You bet I will. But the system is abusing her just as much as her father. He is able to bring anything he wants into the courtroom as his defense and the prosecutor cant do anything about it. He is trashing me and my other child who is an adult. He has moved to another city in the area but continues to have contact with other people in the community, telling them he is not my daughters father, accused me of multiple affairs, said my son stole expensive items from him. At a time when my daughter needs the most support from friends, family, and the community around her, her father is attempting to turn all of these against her. So to all of you women out there who would falsely accuse any man of doing this to your child. Please dont. It makes it harder on the real victims of abuse. And to all you men out there who feel the need to touch a child, may you burn in hell with my now soon to be ex husband.
Posted By: LINDA ROBERTSON
Date: 2009-10-08 11:19:02
In the article, 'The Nuclear Option: false Child Sexual Abuse Allegations in Custody Disputes', dated February 18, 2008, you stated that "Judges must be made aware of certain scientific tests, not currently admissible in court, which may help vindicate the accused." My questions are? What are these scientific tests?
Have they become admissible since Feb. 2008 or have any other tests become admissible?
My name is Shelia Bradley-Smith and I am writing this letter on behalf of my daughter Valencia Howard.My daughter had written to the Commission before and after doing so, her legal battle became worse.My daughter filed in court for the custody of their two sons and was treated very badly during the procedures and to this day is under constant attack of the attorney and her ex husband.My daughter has never used drugs, liquor, tobacco, or anything that would make her a potential risk factor to her children or no human for that fact.During the court hearing, the attorney presented a case file that had false allegations of sexual abuse and made accusations of psychological problem against my daughter.My daughter could not afford an attorney because she had always been a stay at home mother, before and during the time of separation. In March of 2008, her husband took the oldest son from the mother after they were in church and refused to return the son. In court, the attorney made it seem like he was a father trying to keep his son from harm from her breastfeeding. The ex made false sexual abuse allegations, which were unfounded, mental instability, also unfounded. My daughter and many mothers practice extended breast feeding and that has no sexual bearings or implications at all. During the hearing, Judge Camille Banks-Payne made bias statements to and against my daughter in court. She continuously interrupted my daughter’s testimony and immediately degraded anything my daughter attempted to state on her behalf. The attorney didn’t hardly have to question my daughter, the judge made their case for them. While overlooking any of the facts of the ex husband. Judge Banks-Payne also denied my daughter the opportunity to go into the lobby and breast feed her then seven month old son. She told her she should have pumped her milk. That was not and should not have occurred. She caused my daughter to become gorged and my grandson to be without milk for almost three hours. That was child abuse. She ordered my daughter to get a job, pump breast milk at the husband’s request, and awarded her five hundred dollars for the car that her ex had taken without considering marital property.Unfortunately, this Judge allowed the attorney Matt Hanes(an attorney that works with the firm of Tash) to put demands in the order that were not even stated in court during the hearings.Upon having the court date in April 2009, the Judge asked my daughter if she had obtained a job, completed the psychological evaluation. My daughter stated that she had obtained employment and had completed the psychological evaluation.My daughter had no control over the timeliness of the evaluator to get that information into the courts.
Because it appeared to the Judge that my daughter did not have proof of the requirements she requested, the children were given to the father and my daughter was given supervised visitations.Judge Banks-Payne had her clerk to call my daughter and inform her of a scheduled meeting or hearing in her chambers a few days later. This time no one was allowed in the meeting but the Judge, Attorney Gary Tash, Regrick Howard and Valencia Howard.My daughter informed me that she felt that in order to see her children unsupervised (which costed money to visit) she had to agree with what they wanted in order for her to have regular visitations. My daughter had also filed in the courts requesting the Judge Banks-Payne remove herself from the case. According to my daughter, the judge told her that she would no longer be on the case anyway so that was not necessary and also allowed the attorney to explain that holding the appeal over them would not be necessary. Unfortunately, upon receipt of the actual written order, it showed that she had been railroaded completely.Judge Camille Bank-Payne insisted on maintaining jurisdiction and control over this case from the very beginning.Before the court hearing in April 2009, my daughter and I consulted with an attorney and she didn’t accept the case, but she did act as someone who wanted to advise my daughter on what to file in court via emails. While surfing the internet, I found on Judge Bank Paynes friends list on facebook, the very person whom we had consulted with was one of her friends on facebook profile. I during the consultation did make the fact known that I felt that my daughter should contact the Commission about the bias Judge Banks-Payne had openly demonstrated during the hearings. I honestly believe that that attorney told her about our plans and therefore made the judge even more heartless to rule against my daughter.
I also had my daughter to file in the courts a motion to have some items taken out of the orders because that was only items that the ex husband and the attorney added to oppress my daughter. Some of the items were suppose to be taken out, but the attorney Gary Tash uses them in court now.My daughter and her ex husband agreed upon not vaccinating the children because of a reaction that the oldest experienced when he had some of the shots. That was used to take the children away from my daughter, even though, they had agreed and for religious beliefs my daughter was against vaccinations.Finally, the judge ordered the children into daycare to make sure they received vaccinations and she totally disregarded the recommendations of the Guardian Ad Litem and thepsychological examination.Both recommended that they both have shared legal custody, but because Judge Banks-Payne had personal bias and a reason to dislike my daughter ruled against my daughter. This was not and should be looked into. Not only did they deceive her in the private hearing but allowed the attorney to put in the order that my daughter could not appeal the decision.Now that Gary Tash has been representing her ex, we feel that because he was a previous judge in that district, my daughter has no legal justification because he has influence and friendships with most of the judges. Also, Gary Tash and Regrick Howard sit in court giving each other high fives and they too are facebook friendsI feel that my daughter rights as an upstanding citizen are and will continue to be violated. The judge totally ignored the fact that this man made false unfounded allegations about my daughter but because she was now low income, living in low income housing, have a college degree, and should be working gave legal sole custody to their father.Mr. Howard himself abandoned the home and gave her only $200.00 for their support prior to court and my daughter even sign an agreement to allow him to pick the children up daily because she felt it to be important to the children to be with their father also, now because of a heartless judge and a cut throat attorney with clout, my daughter and grand children have to suffer.
Recently, Mr. Howard filed a contempt charge against my daughter when the wrong pay rate and hours were intentionally submitted in court and causing my daughter to have to pay $800.00 per month, at the beginning of each month, that Gary Tash should not have submitted until he received employment verification that detailed rate of pay and hours; as discussed in the private hearing in April 2009. The attorney also added that I am not to interfere with visitations in the order and I have done nothing.
I am asking that you do a complete investigation of the biases of Judge Banks- Payne, and the affiliations and influences that Gary Tash have and order complete transcripts of all the hearings. I beg that you please help her.It seems that the influence of being a previous judge gives them the total advantage and the bias Judge Banks-Payne has allowed this miscarriage of justice to occur. As a result, my daughter is forced to be placed under the cruel punishment of her ex husband that is enforced by a justice system that is suppose to be for all the people. She don’t deserve to be kicked down for being a good mother, forced to be homeless, or to go to jail because she don’t have an attorney.Please help her, please.
i am so glad to have found this article. we have been dealing with a court case that is pretty much exactly as you described.
my husband filed for divorce in san joaquin county california in 2002 and requested 50/50 custody of the 3 y.o. son they had together. not 2 months later his ex went to cps and made some sort of abuse claim regarding her daughter from a previous relationship (i don't know the exact nature of the claim as my husband was never told). the ex then went and filed for a restraining order with the family courts she told them that if she didn't cps was going to take her children from her. they granted the temporary restraining order. when they went back to court the cps worker who was "investigating" the claim didn't even show up for the hearing. when the court called her to ask what conclusion they had reached they were told that the abuse case was "indeterminable" WHICH MEANS IN CALIFORNIA "WE DON'T KNOW". they don't care whose life they are RUINING by leaving this FALSE CHARGE hanging over my husbands head. the judge then removed the restraining order. but primary custody was granted to the ex. Whose only concern is the child support she at one point has told us you can have him if you continue to pay me child support.
We are still to this day dealing with this false charge. When we requested primary custody because the ex was living with no utilities and refusing to take their son to the doctor when he was sick we were denied. The court mediator actually referenced the charge to our lawyer stating that "cps was the eyes in the back of her head"
We have tried to obtain copies of the charge but cps says they will give the info to the family courts if requested but for us to get copies we have to subpoena them. same thing with the police dept. that interviewed my husband the type of charge makes the report private (even though he was the one being interviewed)
if anyone has any advice on this situation please leave a comment. thank you
Posted By: The one that knows about your brother\\\\\\\\\\\\\
Date: 2010-03-17 18:35:35
R. Howard has falsely accused the mother of sex abuse which has been found untrue for the third time, yet he managed to get the mother put in jail because she cannot afford the $800.00 per month child support payments. I will make sure that all that he does to the children's mother will known via internet about their father. I am sure that what is put in cyberspace stays in cyberspace. One day those children will grow up and read the truth. I pray they have a heart to forgive him. He has falsely accused her of sex abuse, told the children mama is going to jail, barred her from filing income tax, and is using whatever means to stomp their mom in the dirt. He knows that his attorney puts whatever he wants in orders to oppress their mom. I believe one day, those boys will know the entire truth and will confront him and his family about their wrong doings. He makes almost four thousand a month, yet he expects her to pay eight hundred a month out of her twelve hundred a month income. Instead of hurting her, he should try make it right with GOD instead of allowing satan to rule his heart. When she had the boys, R. Howard only paid a total of two hundred dollars over a three month period, their mother never once tried to have him put in jail. I think it takes a very weak person to call himself a man to do this. One would think that he should be charged for taking their boys through such abuse. I am sure emotional and perhaps psychologically, those boys are abused. That doesn't matter to the courts though, they are only concerned with who have a lawyer and who doesn't. One day we will get legal representation and I will make sure I keep the truth told about him and his corrupt heart. Reg, you nor satan can have her soul, justice will soon prevail. Someday you will have to look your kids in their eyes and try to explain your reasons, but my post will be in cyberspace to set the truth out before them. All the court documents will prove to them that you hated their mom for no reason. All because you wanted to be in control. It may look like satan is winning now, but good always wins.
My brother has been accused of child rape and is currently in jail while they investigate the case. We are a working class family and had to pull together nearly $10,000 to retain a lawyer. Our entire family knows that my brother is being falsely accused (He was recently awarded full custody!!). These types of custody games hurt alot of people and there should be more resources for people accused of these crimes during custody battles. My brother may do serious time in prison for these accusations and as far as the courts are concerned he is already guilty. This is an outrage! any resources to offer or lawyers that deal with these types of cases please email: freebrownfoundation@gmail.com
Posted By: Stephen Smith
Date: 2010-07-12 18:42:03
I can see that Im not alone. I filed for custody of my 3 children after my ex-wife was charged with child endangerment. My kids have begged for years to live with me and i saw what i thought was a chance to make that dream of my childrens and myself, a reality. I filed for custody and my ex-wife immediately filed a false report against me claiming sexual abuse. Although her entire family is on my side, the kids teachers at school who have talked to my kids, bus drivers, etc, the judge still gives her custody and i now havent seen my kids or even talked to themk on the phone going on 3 years now. My ex-wife actually confessed to the whole thing after getting caught in a lie by DHR, but she moved to another county within a few days and refiled the false charges against me. To make it worse, i hear stories from people in our town about my kids jumping out of their moms mini-van at gas stations, running frantically to strangers begging them to hide them in their car and take them to their daddy. They miss me as much as i miss them and that rips my heart into because i would rather them forget about me so they dont cry themselves to sleep every night like i do. Their mom is so mean to them. My youngest is Katie and i havent seen her since she was 4yrs old but at that time she already had a low self esteem because my ex told her every day that she was so fat and gross and my ex pinned her down regularly and plucked Katies eyebrows and often made her eybrows bleed. Katie is so cute and has the sweetest personality and im going crazy thinking about her being laughed at and put domn and tortured every day. Im the only one that took them on vacation, fishing, camping, hiking, etc. Their mom will not let them play in the yard, she wont let them trick or treat and tells them that all the people that trick or treat are going to burn in hell forever and ever. I have over 3000 pages handwritten of stories like this that will break your heart. DHR and our government are protecting more abusers than they are the people that do right and love their children. The childrens opinions dont even matter to DHR because my kids have begged them to let them live with me because im nice to them and their mommy yells and hits them all the time. My ex-wife hit our son in the face so hard that it flipped him out of the buggy onto the floor, simply because he asked, "Mommy can i please get one piece of gum? You dont have to get me a whole pack." DO YOU UNDERSTAND THAT I LOVE MY KIDS AND I COACHED THEIR TEE BALL TEAM AND THEY MISS ME SO BAD AND I HAVE SPENT OVER $15000 ON LAWYERS AND FILING MOTIONS AND OUR GOVERNMENT STILL CONTINUES TO SLOWLY KILL ME AND MY KIDS THAT I LOVE SO MUCH THAT MY CHEST AND MY HEART HURT CONSTANTLY. I JUST WANT TO SAY HEY AND TELL THEM I LOVE THEM ON THE PHONE! MY EX WIFE TELLS THEM IM DEAD NOW AND SHE STARTED TELLING THEM THAT AFTER THEY STARTED TRYING TO ESCAPE BEGGING PEOPLE TO TAKE THEM TO THEIR DADDY. I WAS THEIR HERO AND THEY DONT UNDERSTAND WHY I HAVENT RESCUED THEM BECAUSE I ALWAYS PROMISED THEM THAT I WOULD NEVER LET ANYBODY HURT THEM AND IF ANYONE EVEN TRIED TO ID COME SWOOPING IN LIKE SUPERMAN AND SAVE THEM. I HAVE FAILED THEM I CANT SAVE THEM PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME AND MY BABIES PLEASE
Posted By: Sexual Abuse Claims
Date: 2010-10-28 04:59:42
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I am so glad I found this page. I am in the middle of a very bitter divorce & my ex-wife (to be) came up with similar nonsense. We have a court date on the 18th and I will be representing myself--- I picked up some stuff from this site and others--- I am hopping that Judge will use commonsense and slam my ex for being stupid and nasty. BTW: CPS/CPA, doctors and the cops didn't buy her bs. Wish me luck as I get ready for my fight in the court:)
I love my daughter more than I dislike my ex. Remember guys, they are trying to get us worked up but never let emotions take over your actions. use your head and fight and be sure to use your commonsense. I will let you know if it works for me lol
My son has been fighting in Family Court since 2005.He has been put threw hell in Family Court.
His ex wife has been allowed to get away with going against court orders, and of course she has not been punished for it. She is allowed to get away with making up false allegations filing false TPO’s to get her way.
My son has fought in Family Court to get his daughter help after she tried committing suicide, and his ex wife has been allowed to only take her to canceling a few times and taking her out canceling.
My granddaughter has been out of control since she was 11 years old. Her mother has allowed her to do whatever she wants, and of course her mother has made her take care of her 2 brothers while she works at night and while she is out partying. My granddaughter has been having sex since she was 12.And this has gone on in her own home while her 2 brothers are there.
My granddaughter has been drinking, taking drugs which she has got the drugs and the alcohol from her own home. Her mother was ordered by the court to keep all drugs and alcohol locked up. This was ordered after my granddaughter tried committing suicide. And also my son learned at hat time my granddaughter has also been token to ER for intoxication before this incident.
My granddaughter has been the child that her own mother has used since 2005.Her mother has used her as being the main child that was scared of her own dad, and she use’s this to get the false TPO’s and she also adds my 2 grandsons in these allegations .My grandkids have all been asked by the judge if this is true, and they plainly state they are not afraid of their dad. There has also been court ordered people to talk to them, and they also get the same answers. But the of course the mother objects to these court appointed people. The mother only wants people that her attorney uses.
My granddaughter has been the child that has been allowed to be the one who chooses if se wants to see her own dad. My son had custody of his 2 boys and the mother was outraged that he had custody of them so she filed false rape charges on him. And of course none of the witness’s that was there at the time she said it happened were not allowed to testify for my son. My son never went outside when she picked up the boys for visitation, he would watch them threw the kitchen window to make sure they got in the car safely. My son didn’t trust her cause of all the false charges and lies she has told and done.
So because of these phony charges the boys were placed back with there mom and my son had to go to Donnas House for visitation at first. Then he got his visitation back and he got the boys Tuesdays Thursdays and every other weekend.
So last year his ex wife started playing her games again. She signed the boys up to play football. This would take his visitation days and take the days my son had with his boys for their bike races. So my son became an assistant couch for their football team and of course this pissed her off. At the last game she had her attorney send the football association phony papers that said my son had no parental rights. She did not tell my son that she had pulled the boys out of football. My son of course carried with him at all times he legal court papers. But the football association would not allow my grandson to play.This is the first time the phony papers show up…
She also took my grandsons out of state on Fathers Day. In my sons court papers it states that the boys are spouse to be with their dad on Fathers Day. She tells my son too bad deal with it.
Then my son is told by his ex wife that her fiancée almost killed her. He had strangled her and she was blue when my granddaughter stopped him. My granddaughter called the police. Then my granddaughter is told by her mom’s fiancée that she is worthless and will never amount to anything to go cut herself again and do a better job this time and die.
Then the next thing my son knows is the false PTO’s begin again. This was around Thanksgiving. My son was spouse to have his boys Thanksgiving. Then the next thing that happens is my granddaughter calls her dad crying and begging him to fight for her brothers and that she was coming to live with him. Then my son finds out that his ex is marrying the very same one who just had almost killed her by strangling her, and that they would be taking the kids to live in Vancover, Washington.
So my son hires an attorney and starts the proceeding again. And of course she files another false PTO. And this PTO makes sure my son doesn’t see his boys for Christmas. This brings you up to what’s going on now.
The Present…..
My son has the court proceeding going on. My son doesn’t agree on his ex taking his kids out of state. Then in court they try making a deal with my son to allow her to take the kids and that he won’t have to pay child support and that he would be allowed 2 weeks out of a year with his boys. And that he could go to Vancouver and spent the weekend at a motel with his boys too. And my son doesn’t agree with it and says no.
It starts out with my son’s ex wife trying to pay his aunt to lie for her. Then an email is sent from her attorney’s office to my son’s aunt telling her to print this letter out and take it and sign it and have it notarized and fax it back to her attorney’s office. In return my son’s ex wife said she would give his aunt money and take her shopping and that she could buy whatever she wants. My son’s ex wife wanted this so she could have my son arrested for validating the PTO.
So my son’s aunt called and got the email address to my son’s attorney office and she forwarded the email from my son’s ex wife’s attorney to then. My son’s aunt also sent a email to my son’s ex wife’s attorney and his assistant and also included my son’s ex wife in it, informing them all she was not lying for my son’s ex wife nor taking any money or anything from them. And to also leave her alone, she wanted no contact from any of them. This is when the first payoff was tried. And also my son’s ex wife informed my son’s aunt that she had a lot of tricks up her sleeve..
In the meantime my son is trying to find out where his daughter is. My son’s dad said he was told by my son’s ex that my granddaughter was staying with a friend out of state. Then also my son’s dad informs him that his daughter has had an abortion, that her boyfriend got her pregnant. And that she had stole 1500.00 from her granddad, and that she had used it to pay for the abortion.
We finally find out that my granddaughter had been taken to New Haven in Utah after she stole her mom’s fiancée’s car and ran away and she wrecked the car. She had pills in the car with her and she had supposals had been drinking. My son called New Haven in Utah to find out where they was, because he was coming to get his daughter, because her mom had put her there without his permission. That’s when they advised him he would be arrested if he came on their property, because they had papers that said he had no parental rights. This is the next time these phony papers show up.
We go to court and this is when we hear that my son’s ex wife and his sister has said that my son has molested his own sister. And yes my daughter was there, she looked like a homeless person off the street. In this proceeding I was appointed by the judge to supervise my son’s visitation with his boys. And also my son’s ex wife and my daughter was told by the judge that they better have proof of these allegations against my son, by the way of arrest records and legal documents stating these facts. And of course we were ready for the visit from my grandkids, we recorded the whole visit from the time we picked them up and dropped them off….We knew that his ex wife and her attorney would say something happened. I was accused of leaving for 1 hour, because I was so upset. So I in turn wrote a letter to the court and had it notarized because these allegations were 100% false.
Then at the next court appearance there is BREAKING NEWS. It has come to light the night before court, once again from my son’s ex wife’s attorney and her, now saying my son had molested his daughter .This come from my granddaughter’s boyfriend.
Ok here we have my daughter who has had her very own son took from her because of drugs and being an unfit mother. My daughter is a meth addict. My daughter dose drug with my son’s ex wife and admitted that in court, and has done it for years. My son’s ex wife’s family has been convicted for having meth labs. My daughter is a meth addict, but the truth is the truth, and a drug addict will do anything to support their addiction.
My son’s ex wife is married to a very wealthy man. Her husband hires the same attorney that the owner of the Wynn’s had. And now we have CPS involved. And CPS never talks to any of us. We once again go to court. All the witness’s for my son are there. We sit there and watch the CPS worker and the stepdad being very, very chummy see him hand her a small envelope the size you get from a bank and her winks at her. She had nothing else in her hands. She leaves for a few minutes and returns with nothing in here hands.HUM?????Now this is a person that is spouse to be for the kids…..What’s up with her and the stepdad??????Now mind you this is a very, very wealthy man.
The next thing that happens we learn there are domestic violence charges on the stepdad and charges on the mom, because they say she new what was going on. My son go’s to the hearing on this .After court we head back to his work, and his boss meets him outside and she tells him to stay there with her, and the next thing 2 vehicles pull up behind his truck. My son realizes what’s going on and walks over to them. They tell him o stand in front of the hood and he dose, he takes everything out of his pockets and places it on the hood and then puts his hands behind his back. They cuff him and place him in the vehicle. Then the lady detective comes over to me and says my son will call me in a couple hours. This was on July 1st 2010.My son’s boss tells me after they leave with my son, that the detective had called her and told her they were coming to arrest my son. His boss told the detective she would bring my son to her and he could turn himself in, the detective said no that my son would run if he found out. Then his boss told the detective to meet my son and her in their attorney’s office, which is on the same property as his work and turn himself in to the detective. But once again the detective said no that my son would run. Now here you have my son walk over to them and do everything they say and place his hands behind his back and they cuff him….And this woman detective says my son will run…….
My son is not taken in front of the judge like the law states. They clearly go against his civil rights. When he finally gets to see the judge he tries to get released on OR, house arrest or have the bail reduced and the DA denies it saying my son is a flight risk. Here sits my son in jail, he has no record and has obeyed all court orders threw his divorce.
Now the attorney that was hired by my son’s ex wife is no longer in the picture, he was only hired to push the DA and the detective and have my son arrested. And that happened.
My son sits in jail on probable cause. In the meantime my granddaughter runs away and is found just before my son go’s to his prelim and me and my son’s witness’s sit out side and over hear my son’s ex wife’s husband say to her attorney that my granddaughter will go along with the story, or she will be placed in an institution. We see my granddaughter with the woman detective that arrested my son. My granddaughter is placed on the stand and when asked questions she says I don’t remember or I don’t know. Then after the hearing my son is transferred to Clark county detention center from Henderson jail. And of course we start all again with arraignment, prelim and so on. He starts 21 charges to 17 then back to 21 and then 13 and so on.
My son is taken to family court and he has to plead the fifth because of the case downtown. He is not aloud to testify or defend himself in this court. My problem is with the judge in family court is that he clearly states in open court he likes my granddaughter. So that right there should have caused him to be removed from the case. It makes him prejudice to the case judge is spouse to stay neutral. In this court my granddaughter was asked was if she told her dad she was coming to live with him and that she told her dad to take her mom back to court to fight for her brothers, and she said yes. Then she was asked if you dad did these things to you, why would you go live with him? She said her plan was to go live with her dad and then turn him in so she could be emancipated so no one can tell her what to do.CPS was going to place my granddaughter with my youngest son and his fiancée, they passed all the requirements by CPS.But when my youngest son and his fiancée went to the court hearing ,once again my son’s ex wife’s attorney and her had another phony document by my daughter saying now my youngest son had molested her. This is because my son’s ex wife don’t want my grandkids around any of my son’s family.
This very same judge that likes my granddaughter places her with her boyfriend and his parents. This is the very same boy who got my granddaughter pregnant. Now my granddaughter has what she wants. The first time she ran away it was with her boyfriend. When she ran away the second time we don’t know who she was with. My granddaughter has learned how to play and use the courts just like her very own mother. She has learned how to get what she wants.
I myself have been attending court hearings on my son’s ex wife and my grandkids. I have found out that my granddaughter caused problems the place in Utah and got in trouble, and that she has also got in trouble at the places CPS has had here in and that they had to call the police on my granddaughter, she has also said that 1 of the councilors at one of the places tried mess with her and of course he was a man. These things were never disclosed to my son or his attorneys.
The same judge has allowed my son’s ex wife to move the boys to Vancouver, Washington. My granddaughter is here with her boyfriend and his parents. She refuse’s to live with her mom. My granddaughter has stated that all her mom and stepdad do is drink, and fight all the time and that they make her watch the boys while they go out of towns for days at a time.
The Henderson detective states on the witness stand that she assumes my son is guilty and that they have no evidence and that they are still investigating. We have the first CPS worker state on the witness stand she did any investigation on the case. But here my son sits in jail while they try to build a case.
All they have is a mother who clearly states she has tricks up her sleeve. And a daughter who wants what she wants and has got it with living with her boyfriend. And has learned how to lie and be like her mother and use the courts to get what they want no matter what the cost. And no one to be able to tell her what she can and cant do.
And what so sad I have found on the internet lots of stuff in my granddaughter fairy tale story of what happened. Both my granddaughter and her mother use the internet all the time. My granddaughter’s story has changed 5 times now. Her boyfriend was aloud to copy his first statement because he couldn’t remember his story. In his first statement he stated my granddaughter had told him 2 years ago about what her dad had done to her. But my granddaughter said on the witness stand that she had told her boyfriend in Oct of last year.
My son has lost everything. We have had to sell everything he owns, he has lost his boys, because his ex wife wants her way. All because my son would not agree to the kids being took out of state to live. And she has told friends and family members her goal was to have my son locked away in jail and to lose everything he has. And it’s sad because where is my son? He’s locked up in jail. It looks like she has won.
The first CPS woman treated me and talked to me like I was a piece of trash just because I showed up at the hearing about my grandkids. This is wrong. WHATS WRONG WITH OUR COURT SYSTEM? YOU ARE SPOUSE TO BE INACENT TILL PROVEN GUILTY.NOT IN MY SON’S CASE. He sits in jail on here say. A detective that ASSUMES. His life has been threatened in jail, and my son is scared to sleep and he knows he could be killed at any time. Put yourself in his shoes knowing you are 100% incent. He has never been in trouble in his life. And its because he would not give his consent to a very vindictive ex wife. And all the proof of all the tricks and games she plays in the court are all in black and white in court documents.
They won’t reduce his bail or even let him out on house arrest, all because the DA says he is a fight risk or a threat to the public. But here they release murders and men that have 100 % worse charges than my son. While my son has been in jail he has seen this happen.
All I have got to say is here is hi sex wife with a new husband that is very wealthy. And as the saying go’s MONEY TALKS. Someone has got paid off .Why I say this the new husband is awful chummy with the DA, the detective and CPS.
Now my son is the only one that fought in court for his daughter to get the help and canceling after her suicide attempt. If he had done these things they say he did he would have never fought for her to get help. But her is the mother who takes her daughter to a few sessions and takes her out. Hum who is the guilty person….She must be trying to hide something from everybody. We all know it was her own brother that molested my granddaughter.
His ex wife has emailed my granddaughter and tells her to testify against her dad so they will lock him up so her brothers will never have to see their dad again. The first councilor says she is lying. So they get another one that says different….
I don’t want my son to be railroaded into taking a plea bargain, cause that will brand him for the rest of his life. And I don’t want him locked up for life. What I wane knowhow many incent men are locked away in prison that are incent.
If my son lived in any other state he would not be locked up in jail. What’s wrong with the Nevada Justice System?????? Are they that corrupt??????????????? I know that Family Court, CPS and the DA And the detective are corrupt….I have read all about it on the internet and also how woman are using child molestation all the time to get their way…..It is in a epidemic portion now days and its sad….The court need to stop it and to make sure there is 100% proof that it is true before it is allowed to be used.
My name is Marilyn Farris, my email address is rsclady2000@yahoo.com......My son’s name is Terry Farris…I hope someone will help us……Thank you…..
Posted By: American in Fear
Date: 2011-01-28 12:25:31
Yeah, I read all about the liberal laws enacted to dispense with a parent's right to raise his child, as opposed to the state. Anyone accusing someone of child abuse "in good faith" is completely immune from legal retribution, no matter how much damage is caused.
Posted By: wayne sanchez
Date: 2011-02-07 01:23:06
first of all my hearts and prayers to all who have shared thier stories here in this forum i am a 41yr old father who has been engaged in an ongoing custody war for almost 4 years now and my story mirrors so many of the details shared by all authors above best of luck to all the innocent and wrongly accused and a hope that sooner than later so many eyes will be opened to all these civil rights atrocities keep your chins up
my ex-husband was recently accused of child molestation and now sits in jail awaiting his fate. the accusor is the daughter of a drug addict and ex-convict. the ex-con was just released from prison and now he and the mother are battling over the child, with my ex caught in the middle.
what can i do for him? he has no money for an attorney, and the public defender doesn't seem to be doing very much for his case. Can anyone help him or is he doomed to spend the rest of his life in prison for something he didn't do?
thank you for any help or advice that you can give.
Posted By: Truth Prevails
Date: 2011-08-15 22:35:54
"The father is not the only victim in a false child sex abuse allegation. Children are also victimized."
So VERY true, so VERY sad!
However, persistence occasionally pays off, and every now and then the good guy wins. For all fathers who have been victims of false allegations of sexual abuse, stand strong, be persistent, and continue fighting for your child(ren). This father finally, after many years, prevailed!
Posted By: thomas j hackett
Date: 2011-08-30 20:05:25
the false accusations must stop now. in my case, btv attorney and satan's little helper **** ****** must be disbarred. judge ****** **** disrobed, disbarred, and both need to be blacklisted. sue them, and make sure there isn't a soul left who isn't aware these guys are corrupt.
Posted By: thomas j hackett
Date: 2011-08-30 20:11:54
response to Roland. here's the deal: "government types" are committing TREASON by destroying innocent Americans. We the People must rise up and put an end to this corruption (communist/ fascist coup).
My divorce ended Yesterday October 3rd 2011. I lost my daughter to a False Allegation. How could I explain it better than the article by Jake? I can't. It is exactly what happened to me. What to do when the civil courts in this country are criminals themselves! False Allegation investigations should not stop when it comes back unfounded, that's when they should begin!! Investigate why it was said? You pulled the child from the father, now pull her from the mother so can't be programed and start asking the hard questions. It is the only way you will get to the bottom of a false allegation and the felons who do these horrible acts to children. What am I saying? I'm wasting my time and my breath. Good luck getting our society to take a child from a Mother to actually get the truth. The truth is, the truth scares the hell out of all the players involved! Judges, attorneys, GAL's, Mom activist groups. It will never happen! Never!!!!
This is an absolute description of case currently going on in Minn. Classic. As if the mother had read this article and went word for word, and The Dad was hit so fast he didn't know it was coming. But the sexual abuse was thrown at the half sister of the child in question, and its up to a 16 year old girl who now has to prove her innocence, and everyone is standing back saying, well if theres smoke theres fire, but the only one throwing the allegations is the child's Mother..
I have been in a custody battle with my own mother for about 4 years now. I found out in August that my 55 year old stepfather climbs into bed with my 7 year old every night when he gets off work. This ha sbeen going on for over a year now. My mother goot mad at me for not giving my 4 year old night time meds in the day time. The medicine is for sinus but she had a cough. so i got her cough medicine. I have racked my brain to find justification for any man to get into bed with 7 year old girl. There isn't one. cps did nothing when called. see my mother lied and had me arrested 2 years ago and put my gils on the condition of release so for 8 horrible months i couldn't see them. The grand jury said she lied but I still had to go to court to get it lifted. She made the most horrifying accusatons in court. That i tried to give my self miscarrage and all this. but no one mentions or has in court for the past 4 years my riva. She was so emotionally neglected when we started supervised visits that she had her own little world. Whether he has touched her or not it is not teaching good thhings for papa to get into cora's bed every night. an dmy mother is turning riva into a drug addict. I spoke to her and she said she stopped but no riva getsd her night time medicine every day at naptime, my oldest looks to me to protect riva, but no one will help us. due to a mistake ai made. They are teaching them to lie and it's funny I think they think it'sover and iz've accepteed this. my mother wants me to act like their sister. it's a s ick situation. I have recently had a baby boy and I am married to a wonderful man. people will put memories into a childs head. just the other day ,my sister came to visit and my mother would call me ean hour before an assembly or hono roll was to start at the school or tel me wrong times so i look irresponsible. at my daughter4s birthday. she kept saying jenifer, why are you being so rude to me. i waasn't but i realised everyone there will remember it like i was because she put it in the back of their mind. i want my children home more than anything, but at this juncture I want them safe even if Ican't be with them. It would be like death but knowing they are safe is more important then anything right now. I am so sorry for all of you father's going through these things. I haven't accused him of molestation just inappropriate behavior. which it most definately is. I could seecora getting into their bed but him in her bed every night with oiut a shirt cuddled up to her then my mom goes and gets her every mornin and says sh we can't wake papa . then drugging my 4 year because ......omg!!!!!she's got the energy of a 4 year old. I just want you guys to know that there are some of us who are in your shoes as well. There's so much more to it. I can't believe i put my babie sthere. I thought they had changed. but they will be home. If it wasn't for my 4 month old boy. I would have ended my life last winter but I couldn't hurt him. my mom tells my 7 year old she has nightmares. I asked my cora what ae they about. I don't remember my dreams nana tells me what i dreeam. Thanks to all of you and thanks for allowing me to vent a little I feel so helpless. In a divorce it is very easy for a grandparent to swoop in and take the children as well. heck marriage actually would've protected us from my parents. I found out my dad fought 11 yrs for us. my sisters still think he mo;lested them but im betting on someone else. you can easily especially with years of mental manipulation- make a child's memory of someone else commiting the abuse. i used to wake up in my panties thinking i must have gotten too hot and took my clothes off at night. it's kinda funny that only happened at my mother's house. i was cora's age. I know my mother sold us out but i was naive enough to think she'd never do that to cora--now my youngest is another story. she knows they don't care for he.r
sorry for going on like that i am just .........well i guess you can inagine. jen
After reading all of these stories I feel I am no longer alone. My daughter files charges on my husband when refused to any more of her bills,
He took the 10 years deferred adjuication.What a huge mistake. She and her skinhead friends have harrassed us so much. we have had to move 5 times in one year due to harrassment. I have had to change cell numbers and landline numbers. Her and her little minded friends drive by our house all the time, and makes death threats to us.
I have gone to the Bellmead Texas police and they are nothing but a huge joke as well. Once you are accused of a horriable crime such as child molestation you are automatically guilty. My best advice is never , never be left alone with a child. Even if you are a father. The kid gets mad and it is all over the news these days about a child claimed a father molested them.
I was abused sexually, physically,emotionally,mentally I left home hoping to go down like my daddy in a war that meant something because the rest of my life did not ..
Now I know it does it can help countless victims and get maximum prosecution for the.
Our family is going through something similiar to this. My brother was accused by his soon to be ex wife and his oldest daughter (15yrs old) of molestation. What we found out the night that he was being arrested is that his wife was seeing someone else and was leaving him. This has been the worst nightmare that anyone could possibly go through. We have spent so much money so far and it hasn't even went to trial. Child Services are absolutely HORRIBLE to us. The children are not with the mom or with my brother. The moms best friend was appointed as foster parent so the children are with her and guess what, the mom stays there as well as the moms step dad, as much as they like. I pray for anyone who is going through this, the word nightmare doesn't even begin to explain the torture innocenet people are going through.
