Lesson #2 - Making a False Child Abuse Allegation is a Form of Child Abuse!
A woman that knowingly makes a false sex abuse allegation against a child's father is committing an act of child abuse. Richard Wexler, an authority on false abuse allegations, explained that children are traumatized by the experience of an unnecessary sexual abuse investigation (1990). When an angry mom tells Child Protective Services that daddy molested his little girl, the child is given a physical examination. A doctor examines the little girl's hymen and also checks for vaginal bruising or tearing. Tests are conducted to determine if the child has been infected with a sexually transmitted disease. This process is absolutely emotionally horrifying and sometimes physically painful for the young child. The experience will affect her to some degree for the rest of her life.
Not only does the child have to submit to numerous interrogations and invasive tests to determine if abuse actually occurred, but needless therapy is often prescribed - even when the child denies the story concocted by mom. The child, knowing at first that nothing happened, is subjected to counseling that reinforces the story that abuse has occurred. She is often asked to play with graphic, anatomically correct dolls, simulating "play time" between the child and her daddy for the observer. Between counseling and programming from the devious mother, the child's memory begins to be programmed to accept something that never happened.
With repetitive questioning from social workers and psychologists, many children grow to believe and accept that their fathers molested them. They are confused as to why so many adults seem to think that daddy did something bad, but eventually accept the suggestions as fact. Children are prematurely sexualized by this process, develop deviant sexual interests and begin to engage in sexual intercourse at a young age, sometimes resulting in teenage pregnancy.
The emotional and mental trauma resulting from a child being falsely led to believe that she was sexually assaulted by her own father is severe and carries life-long consequences.
This phenomenon has become so common that psychologists have given names to attendant syndromes that result from false abuse claims, including Parental Alienation Syndrome and Sexual Abuse in Divorce. The loss of self-esteem, the destruction of the father-child relationship, the mental and emotional damage and premature sexualizing of the child are all very real results of a false abuse accusation. No child should be treated so heinously by his own parent or used as a pawn in a legal chess game.
The vast majority of mothers, including divorced moms, are not guilty of this despicable act. But increasing numbers of divorcing women do, indeed, use this tactic against their ex-husbands. Women that knowingly file false allegations of child sexual abuse have committed child abuse and are a danger to their children.
Next Lesson: How It Feels to Be Falsely Accused
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Reference: Wexler, Richard (1990). Wounded Innocents: The real victims of the war against child abuse. Amherst, NY: Prometheus Books.
Jake Morphonios is a civil rights advocate and North Carolina State Coordinator for Fathers 4 Justice - US. The political opinions of Mr. Morphonios do not represent those of Fathers 4 Justice. Neither Mr. Morphonios nor F4J-US provide legal advice or assistance with individual cases.
Fathers seeking support or information, or other parties interested in becoming involved in the children's rights movement may contact Mr. Morphonios at: jake.morphonios@nc.f4j.us
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If you liked this article, you may also want to read:
False Child Sex Abuse Allegations - Lesson 3
False Child Sexual Abuse Allegations - Lesson 1
Statistics from the War on Children
The Federal Scheme to Destroy Father-Child Relationships
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Reader Comments:
Posted By: tammy
Date: 2008-03-21 07:28:57
Hello, Good article but may I suggest you include fathers who make false claims of abuse as well. There are many good moms losing custody due to their vindictive ex's. I'm one of them and I know many more. If you would like a list of mothers who suffer from this I would be more than happy to direct you to two very good websites that help parents who have been alienated from their kids. When we take the gender issue out we will be more credible in our fight for justice.
Posted By: Jake Morphonios
Date: 2008-03-21 13:59:51
Any abuse false abuse allegation by a parent against the other parent is a form of child abuse. The weapon of choice among vindictive men is usually to accuse the mother of physical abuse against the child, whereas the common tool of angry moms is the sexual abuse allegation.
I intend to write about other types of allegations in the near future, but the purpose of this series is the specific issue of false sexual abuse allegations. I believe you when you say that women suffer from false allegations as well. However, for this series of articles I don't wish to water down the gravity of a man facing a child SEXUAL abuse charge by talking in general terms about false allegations of other types of abuse.
From having gone through the horror of a false sex abuse allegation, I can write from experience and share with other men facts and support that I had trouble finding. I am writing this particular series with innocent men in mind - men that need information on the specific threat facing them, their liberty and the future of their relationship with their children.
I'm very sorry that you were impacted by a false allegation. I am interested in receiving the links you mentioned.
Jake
Posted By: patty larsen
Date: 2008-03-21 16:55:29
JAKE THERE IS A WEBSITE THAT YOU MIGHT BE INTERESTED IN WWW.SPLITNTWO.COM THE LADY WHO RUNS THE SITE IS A FRIEND OF MINE AND SHE ALSO IS AN ALIENATED MOTHER. TONIGHT THEY ARE HAVING A TALKSHOE LIVE AT 9EST WITH DR SOMMERS WHO IS VERY INVOLVED WITH PARENTAL ALIENATION. YOU CAN FIND OUT MORE ON THE SPLITNTWO SITE. I THINK YOU WOULD LIKE TO TALK TO TWANYA MADDOX WHO RUNS THE SITE. AND THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU ARE DOING FOR THIS CAUSE.
BLESSINGS TO YOU PATTY
Posted By: PATTY LARSEN
Date: 2008-03-21 16:56:07
I THANK YOU FOR BRINING AWARENESS OFF PARENTAL ALIENATION. IM A MOM WHO HAS NOT SEEN MY SONS SINCE 1993 OF SEPT. DUE TO MY EX. AND HIS GIRLFRIEND MOVING MY CHILDREN OUT TO IDAHO AND BRAINWASHING THEM AGAINST ME. I LIVE IN NJ AND THEY ARE ACROSS THE COUNTRY. THIS IS SUCH CHILD ABUSE AND IT IS BEING DONE BY FATHERS AS WELL AS MOTHERS. THANK YOU FOR TAKING THE TIME TO READ THIS.
BLESSINGS PATTY LARSEN
Posted By: tammy
Date: 2008-03-21 17:27:12
Jake it is heartbreaking when I hear the stories from the men in the support group I attend for alienated parents. It is a hideous form of child abuse. I do think that if the men want support and want to be taken seriously they need to take the gender issue out of this. I as well as many other moms are suffering just as much as the men. To be accused of abusing your child is probably the worst thing that any parent has ever had to go through. I thank God everday that I can still get out of bed in the morning and live somewhat of a normal life. But as you know the pain never leaves you and there is a hole in our souls. The sites are [link edited for length] and pasparents@yahoogroups .com
Posted By: Jess
Date: 2008-03-23 12:15:57
I think anyone who uses their child as a pawn and subjects them to such a nightmare should go to jail! Same for their lawyers! I'm sick of this garbage, our children are not weapons, but human beings and it's our duty to protect and nurture them. Thank you for writing about this.
Posted By: Patty
Date: 2008-07-02 12:16:45
Jess you are right about the Lawyers, but jail might be to good for them. I can think of somewhere else I'd like to send them. They only looked out for themselves and cost me, my x and really in the end our children alot of money. I also will always have the stamp of child abuser on my record and I didn't abuse any one. I just tested poorly in an evaluation.
I haven't seen my kids in 15 years. But I am really writting to inform all that my oldest has made contact with me and he and his little brother are planning on meeting me 1/2 way for a reunion (I can't believe he's driving already) They only have good memories of me. So , I am just going to forget the pain from missing all those years and I'm going to enjoy the blessings of being a part of there life now.
Funny how once my legal responsability to pay child support ended now I'm not a danger to them. I guess it's not fun being a Dad and actually having to support the boys with out my weekly check.
So keep the Faith
Kim I hope my story gives you some hope , please don't take pills, as hopeless as it seems there might be a happy ending like mine. I'll keep you all posted !
Posted By: JAKE MORPHONIOS
Date: 2008-09-17 17:33:57
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Posted By: Karen
Date: 2008-11-17 10:14:34
Wow, I am in the beginning stages of all of this and it is very overwhelming. My husband was very verbally and emotionally abusive to me.(To most people that doesn't mean much unless he hits you) I finally left and he told me I would never see my son again. Well its been 5 months...He took off with my son and I couldn't find him, when I finally found him and had him served to go to an emergency court hearing he filed child abuse charges against me. The courts were AWFUL and wouldn't listen to anything I said but gave me 4 hours of supervised visits. I haven't had the funds to fight my husband in court. I have letters from the school, neighbors, friends, that I had a great relationship with my son, but noone cares. All child abuse charges against me were unfounded (20 days after they were filed) but Ihave a black mark against me with the courts. I have seen my 6 year old son for 8 total supervised hours in 5 months. He won't talk to me on the phone.
At this point, I am trying to get myself healthy but it is SO hard. I didn't do anything wrong except leave an abusive husband.
Someone, should start a fund for legal help for this situation. My hands are tied and I can only trust that my son is in God's hands and that someday like - Patty, my son will come back to me.
I have been told to start a journal to my son- I write in it every couple of days. When I see something he would like, my frustrations, my love, everything. That way, someday I can give it to him and he will know that I have always loved him, and it is not my choice that I am not with him.
I would be interested in getting involved in a group to talk with others about this - let me know if you have any ideas.
All I know is that, we have to trust in God and know that this is just a small piece of the puzzle of life.
In the fire together,
Karen
Posted By: Jake Morphonios
Date: 2008-11-17 11:42:35
Karen,
I extend my deepest sympathies to you. You might fight useful information on the following sites:
Good luck,
Jake
Posted By: sandra
Date: 2009-02-05 19:10:16
We are lost for words. My son has been fighting in court for his son which is now 3 years old. The mother gave the baby to her new boyfriends family for adoption but my son found out 2 days before birth and stopped the adoption. but by the time he found his son it was 16 months and by the time it got to court the child was 18 months. My son finally got visaition with him but the jury decied to give my son joint custody but leave my grandson with the couple. My son has appealed the case. But for now my son goes to their state which is 3 states away and get's his son for the weekend once a month and my grandson comes home for the month of july.
The couple got real mad when my son payed for him to come home even if it was for 2 days in christmas. About a week ago the DA from our town called and asked my son to come talk about my grandson. My grandson had said on tape that my son shot him, cut his praivant off and but his finger in his but, Which is all lies my son took a poloytest and past it with flying colors. We were going back to see him and the couple says he's telling them other things which are sure to be lies what can he do. My grandson has never bonded with this couple how do i know he never cryed to go home he wants to stay with his sister ( she is 5 and from the same mother0 The mother didn't want to lose child support. What can be done to this couple we feel that they are hurting the child.
Posted By: Darleen NY 09
Date: 2009-02-24 07:46:47
6 year old grandson - mother, daughter, signed custody to father 3 years ago (she was working nights and Dad was working days) - father signed custody to his mother after she filed CPS Report against him (CPS Report was unfounded). It had been almost a years and I was unable to schedule any visits and filed a Petition for Visitation. Against the Grandmother's wishes I was give every other Sat. 10 AM - 5 PM. Since this time she has filed numerous CPS Reports ranging from the way I clean my home to the pets within my home. All reports were unfounded. She had been in my home and it has always and is very clean and we have two collies for which are a part of our family and very clean and just like kids to us. I know at that point that I may be having a problem with her. Then it came. A CPS Report was filed by her against my son, 10 years old at the time. Report was obiously unfounded but what I found out was my granson had been expelled from Pre-K due just weeks earlier due to his violent behavior and his lack of disaplin. She had just come from a couseling session and emmidiately called CPS. Please keep in mind that each and every time was followed by my visitation being terminated until a hearing was set. At a later date he was diognosed with seperation issues. So I'm sure this played a part in that. Since this time I have had 3 different CPS Reports filed for sexual abuse against my son and my lack of supervision of them for which all were unfounded. In fact, the last CPS Report was only a couple of months ago. She took my grandon to the ER and extensive exam resulted in the ER Physician writing in his report that his exam was conflicting to the information being provided by the grandmother. With that information and the lack of evidence from numerous Phychitrists my visitation was granted back and her Petition of sexual abuse to terminate my visitation was dismissed. However, my Petition for Custody is still pending and less then a week before the hearing date she had taken him to yet anther Psychiatrist and with that another CPS Report was filed. This time my son was referred to as a Sex Offender by the Psychiatrist. To say the least I AM MAD AS HELL. This women is not stopping. My grandson is obviously having issues and I can't beleive this has been alloud to continue. To date he is not attending school. His grandmother picks up his work on Monday and drops it off on Friday. She has also stated that he is becoming aggresive toward her. I have been told by some that maybe it is best just to let this go. That this happens all the time. Am I being selfish and hurting him by continuing?